Gratitude can live side by side with resentment. They are unhappy neighbours but learn to co-exist somehow.
Ask any chronically ill or disabled person. Or their care-givers and loved ones. We know the good and the bad live together.
We can still grow from what was. Like new trees from fallen giants. Growth can come from disaster.
We are only human after all with all kinds of feelings.
And feelings are better than no feelings.
As someone who spent a few years parked in neutral thanks to therapeutic drugs, I heartily agree. At first no feelings was a relief. But it’s insupportable in the long term. It’s what makes us feel alive (that and a cold ocean to swim in!). Every day is a celebration of feeling and experience.